One day I woke up checked my account and saw this. I thought I had at least $100.00, my last $100.00. That money was supposed to last me a month. I forgot that I had an automatic subscription for this very site, and today was the day the payment was due. So distraught, I went back to sleep and pleaded with God not to wake me back up. I had nothing both literally and figuratively. I had no money, not sure how I would get any, could barely afford to eat, behind on my car note and car insurance, and saw no real value in being alive anymore.
I woke back up, and knew I had a choice to make. I was either going to collapse under the weight of all this, or rise and start to pushing forward towards better. This was a defining moment in my life. Webster’s describes the word “defining” as decisive; critically important. This was that time for me. A critically important moment in my life to decide what direction I was going in. I decided that I was not going to be defined by struggle or hardship, that I was going to learn from it and push forward.
I believe sometimes we let our struggles define us. Webster’s second description of “defining” is to state or set forth the meaning. I believe sometimes we let our struggles set the meaning of who we are. So proud that we over came hardship, we wear it like a badge of honor. Proudly screaming “I got it out the mud,” or “I came from nothing.” You should be proud that you overcame hardship, but wearing it like a badge of honor can cause you to be defined by it . Once you become defined by something that’s what you become known for. Think about it, R Kelly is arguably the King of R&B, now he’ll only be known as a man who preys on young women.
I don’t want to only be known as a guy who overcame depression and suicide. I will be known as a man who overcame depression and suicide; then inspired people to become better. Be proud that you overcame your struggles, now use that knowledge to help the next person overcome their struggles. We all decide what defines us; let it be both your struggles and successes. Together they equally make you who you are. Now you decide, whats defining you?
About The Author
Dash is a modern-day “classic” man. He’s a military man, a Alpha Man, a inspirational speaker and everything in between. You can find him at your next party being the life of it and always stressing to have a good time. Follow him on all social media needs @aguynamedash and @visionarypresentations